While it’s implicitly acknowledged that elderly people with dependency issues require attention from their surrounding families (of probably middle-aged offspring) this demanding, often conflicted expectation is not being fully recognised. Families can be seriously strained at this time.
Additionally, this distress is not contained within family boundaries. The time consumed by these contortions in family life is costly across widespread touch-points, e.g.
aged care service staff time and energy involved often ‘caught in the middle of the family fracas’
professional service providers attending to the quagmire of family disagreements; financial planners, accountants, solicitors
distracted attention in the workplace of family members who can be quite distressed by sibling conflict
stress of the original family’s dysfunction can routinely ‘leak’ (be sublimated) into outrage “at” service providers in the form of complaints and other attention-seeking demands.